Author: Varsha Asrani & Renée Shen
One of the most titillating perks of being a woman is that we can enjoy a slight manipulation of a man’s brain.
Don’t get me wrong; I don’t want this superpower to be used cruelly by the fairer sex. But I do believe that slight power to influence is healthy for a relationship.
This brings us to the pressing question, “how to make him miss you”?
In one of my previous articles, I mentioned that men are pretty easy to read.
If you are close to him, it’s already very easy for you to influence his behavior.
If you are not too close yet, then there are definitely still a few tricks that will help you learn how to make a guy miss you.
The fact that you are reading this piece shows that you want your man to want you more, invest in you more and ultimately, miss you deeply.
He might be your acquaintance, ex, husband, or a crush. If you wonder whether it’s possible to influence his thoughts and make him miss you, then allow me to make it clear by saying “YES” it is possible!
To get the answer to the “how” of this query, peruse the section below, where I will elaborate on 12 proven ways that will ensure you stay on his mind.
Here’s a great video from The Feminine Woman on How To Make Him Miss You In 5 Simple Steps:
Yes, make him wait. Why? Because you don’t want to be top easy and too eager.
I know it seems to be a cliché but trust me, it is very effective when alluring a man. Show him that you are not easy to reach all the time.
Don’t respond immediately to his texts or answer his calls on the first ring. Refrain from appearing desperate.
Men like challenges. If you are easy, he will find no joy or depth in chasing you and falling head over heels for you. Make him work hard to gain your attention.
A word of caution – You don’t want him to feel you are always unreachable.
A balanced act of waiting and responding to him (with genuine responses) should do the trick.
How do you balance this act?
Always apologize for responding a little late or for missing his calls. In other words, still acknowledge him and make him feel important whilst respecting your own time!
He must feel that you are genuinely busy, and he must put in the effort if he wants you to take out time for him.
I know some of you might feel that love is not always about looks.
However, I believe that your appearance does play a huge role in making him fall in love with you.
If you want him to miss you, you need to offer something visual that he can cling to and remember in his mind!
Believe me, if he has even the slightest attraction towards you, he will be observing everything about you.
He’ll be watching the way you dress, the way you smile, and the way you carry yourself. Looking sexy is a major factor that can always help you stay on his mind.
How can you look sexy? Here are some tips:
Focus on becoming more of your feminine self and bringing out more of your feminine energy.
Men are suckers for good listeners. If you really want him to miss you, then lend a good ear to him.
Show him that you really are interested in knowing about him. Listen to what he wants to tell you, and acknowledge him as a hard worker, a strong man or an intelligent man.
When your guy knows that he can always count on you for understanding his thoughts and appreciating what he has to say, then he will want more of you and your time.
Listening to him, looking good for him, smiling at him, etc., are all ways to gain his attention.
However, if you want him to keep thinking about you, you must show him that you have a life of your own and that you truly enjoy it.
Don’t always be available for him until you have attained your goal of getting into a committed long term relationship with him.
Go out with your friends, post your happy pics on Instagram or WhatsApp status.
Trust me, he would check out your social media regularly if he has any interest in you at all.
Rather than having your primary focus be trying to be a part of his life, make him want to be a part of your fun life with you!
Find a passion to focus your energy on. Call it a passion or hobby - whatever it is, you need something to focus on.
It could be gardening, learning about a sport, politics, motherhood, travelling, history, the environment or animals.
Sure, you’ll probably want to be included in his life if you’re going to be in a serious long term relationship together.
However, in order to offer him value, you first have to actually be a high value woman, and part of being a high value woman is having an identity and purpose outside of the relationship.
I know from personal experience that if a man ever seeks advice from a woman, it is a test to see how poised and confident she is.
But the fact that he asked you for your opinion or advice shows that he trusts you.
The caveat with this piece of advice on how to make him miss you is that you can’t just give advice or suggestions confidently if you know nothing on the topic!
So your task in this case is to confidently say:
“I am not familiar with that are of life/topic.”
‘I don’t know enough about that yet to give you sound thoughts.”
It doesn’t matter that you don’t know enough, what matters is that you answer confidently.
When you answer confidently, you show that you are an independent person with great conviction.
Being sure about what you say shows that you are thoughtful and smart. Most men prefer the companionship of confident females.
The most obvious reason behind this is the fact that esteemed and confident women provide more value, whilst people with low self esteem generally suck value from the people close to them.
Also, on the extremely rare occasions when a masculine man needs your input, it’s because he wants to know that you can support him in making decisions when he lacks conviction.
If you want to know how to make him miss you, this is probably one of the best pieces of advice you could ever get.
Of course, don’t pretend you know things when you don’t. This is simply low value and is the behavior of a child who hasn’t matured into an adult yet.
(Why is this important? Because men and women perceive value very differently and you don’t want to be making mistakes that would cause quality men to dismiss, abandon or alienate you.)
It is a psychological fact that we lose interest in things and people when we know everything about them.
Therefore, it is important to keep the mystery alive in your relationship.
Even when you want your husband to miss you, you need to understand that you need to have some mystery that would keep him on his toes.
So how do you become more mysterious?
When you are trying to find out how to make him miss you, one of the best tips you can get is to imitate him. You can also call this mimicking or mirroring.
Sounds weird, but men feel important when a female copies his actions. They tend to get more attracted to such companions.
As per psychology today, when a woman mimics her man, he finds her sexually attractive.
Not to mention, when a man feels that a woman is like him in some ways or shares some of his habits, he will feel more emotionally connected to her.
When you’re emotionally connected to someone, it’s no doubt that you’ll naturally miss them more when they’re not around, because they provide you with more value in your life.
If you want to stay on his mind, then mimic his actions when he is around.
It signals to him that you found him worthy of attention, which can lure him to come back to you.
It’s no secret that we tend to subconsciously like people more when they like us!
So, mimic him and he would certainly miss you when you are not around. That’s the purpose, right?
I love to experiment with this tip personally. Men cannot keep themselves away from a woman who always smells nice.
When I say you need to smell nice, I mean from head to toe.
If you are trying to get into a relationship or in a new relationship, then pay great attention to the perfumes, hair conditioner and body lotion that you use.
Just as you find a good smelling masculine man arousing and attractive, men find a woman with a healthy feminine smell to be attractive.
Needless to say, if you want him to miss you or daydream about you, you need to smell great.
Disclaimer: do not overdo it with the perfume. Many women completely overdo it and this has the opposite effect: instead of increasing his attraction for you, it becomes a turn off.
Because it signals that you have something to hide.
So be careful with the amount of perfume you use!
If you’re healthy your natural feminine scent should actually be perfect, and a small amount of lovely feminine perfume will only accentuate your ability to stay on his mind long after the date is over!
If you want to make him miss you, I also suggest you learn the 17 attraction triggers that get a man’s blood boiling uncontrollably…
This tip goes to all those single gals who want to make him miss you. Innocent hand touches, hugs, tickles, etc., are a good way to start.
In a way, you are sending him signals that you would not mind him trying his moves on you.
By getting physically close to him you show him that you find him attractive. He will not be able to relinquish the opportunity to keep you in his thoughts once he gets such vibes from you.
If you are already in a relationship or are married, the best way to make your man miss you is to give him space.
Telling him to go do the sport that he loves or go out and have fun with friends is a great way to show him how awesome you are.
It also shows that you trust him and want him to live his life to the fullest. Doing this would make him miss you and value you as an important and value-giving woman.
Men have two highly related emotions that define them in a woman’s world – “horny” and “hungry.”
Creating a lasting impression on his mind would require that you be good in bed. Paying attention to what he likes is a great way to keep him hooked on you.
Every man has one specific act that reliably gets him off every time. Find out what that is and learn to do it artfully and with full enjoyment and love.
Also, ensure that your lady parts do not reek of bad odour. Everything from your underarms to your private parts can either be a turn-on or a turn-off for him.
As I mentioned in the previous tip, men are also highly influenced by food. So if you want to know how to make him miss you, start by cooking what he loves.
The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach (and also his pants! lol).
When a man gets used to the food cooked by his lady, he would never stop thanking God for your presence in his life.
Needless to say, whenever he gets hungry, you would be his first thought.
The answer to this question is a little ambiguous. Most men respond to the silent treatment.
They tend to think about you a lot and would make an effort to interrupt your silence.
However, if your guy is too stubborn or has less emotional IQ, being silent might not help.
If you want to know how to make him miss you over text, the answer is to use high value banter.
Having the ability to connect with him through banter is a unique art that will make you stand out from other women.
High value banter is a game changing method that helps you create emotional connection in this modern world of texting and online dating.
CLICK here to discover why you as a woman need to use the dark art of “High Value Banter” in order to quickly weed out the wrong types of men and create emotional attraction with the "BEST of MEN"! (...Even if no man has ever given you any love and all you've encountered so far are pen pals, ghosts, booty calls, and incredible duds!)
Certain signs show that a guy misses you. Some of them include:
There are ups and downs in every relationship. Sometimes when you have been together for long, that spark just vanishes. You start taking each other for granted.
As a woman already in a relationship, you can use the above tips to help bring back the spark and that special joy that comes when you have deep attraction in your life.
Also, those gals trying to lure a guy can use these tips to find out how to make him miss you.
I would sign off by saying that many men can be naïve when it comes to relationships and forming an emotional connection. Relationships aren’t the domain of the masculine!
Relationships are in fact the domain of the feminine, so own your ability to lure him in and make him miss you!
You don’t have to wait for him to do all the work or be passive all the time. That’s not what being a woman is all about.
In a relationship, women sometimes have to take charge by enticing a man and keeping the ship of burning desire afloat.
Go ahead and use the above tips to ignite that fire in your chosen man!
Varsha is a writer and mother of a beautiful son. She has a dual Master’s degree in Business Management (Finance & Marketing) and Career Counselling certification. Her passion for learning led her to the teaching domain, where she shares the knowledge she gained over the years through education and personal life. She teaches students of ATMC College Melbourne (as a Management Faculty).
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