Flirting can be a thrilling and exciting experience, but it can also be daunting for those of us who don’t know the ropes.
Fear not, as we’re here to share the secrets of flirting in a high value way that will leave the man you desire wanting you like crazy.
In this post, we’ll take you on a journey through proven ways on how to flirt with a guy and show your high value, ensuring that you’ll have the confidence and skills to up your flirting game and captivate his heart.
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Key Points
- Strike the right balance between showing interest and being confident when flirting.
- Use eye contact, body language & subtle touches to create an intimate atmosphere.
- Be genuine, playful & embrace your unique self for successful flirting!
The Two Principles For Flirting In A High Value Way
When it comes to flirting, there are two key principles to keep in mind: cultivating the right balance and always flirting in a high value way.
Flirting is an art, and striking the right balance between showing interest and maintaining an air of confidence is essential.
By mastering these two principles, you’ll be able to flirt with a guy in a way that leaves him intrigued and captivated.
Principle #1: Cultivate The Right Balance
The first principle of flirting is to cultivate the right balance between showing interest and exuding confidence.
When flirting, it’s important to be playful and engaging without taking yourself too seriously.
By using subtle gestures, such as light touches on his shoulder or a lingering gaze, you can express attraction and build a sense of closeness with the guy you’re interested in, all while maintaining an air of confidence that will leave him wanting more.
Principle #2: Always Flirt In A High Value Way (Not Desperate)
The second principle of flirting is to always flirt in a high value way, which means avoiding any signs of desperation.
To achieve this, use techniques like:
- Maintaining eye contact
- Using playful language; and
- Giving genuine compliments (occasionally) without coming across as overly eager.
Flirting in a high value way keeps the guy guessing if you’re really into him, and it leaves a lasting impression that will make him want to know more about you.
Related: How to Tell A Guy You Like Him: 10 High Value Ways.
The Art of Eye Contact
Eye contact is an essential part of successful flirting. It’s a powerful way to show interest, create a connection, and convey attraction without saying a word.
By mastering the art of eye contact, you’ll be able to flirt with a guy in a way that is:
- Enticing
- Inviting
- And leaves him intrigued and wanting to know more about you.
Employ The Power Of A Quick Glance
A simple glance towards your desired man can instantly convey attraction when it comes to flirting.
The power of a glance lies in its ability to express interest and attraction without any words, stirring up feelings of curiosity, closeness and arousal in a man.
Here is how to harness the power of a glance:
Make eye contact with the guy you’re interested in and hold it for a few seconds longer than usual, or make eye contact and then look away and then back again.
These subtle moves will signal your interest and leave him wanting more.
One key to keep in mind:
Don’t do this too many times. Once per hour is plenty. At the most, do it twice in one night.
If you’re spending time with him one on one, you can do it more frequently that this, but be sure to not overuse this strategy, as it is powerful.
Overusing it will result in you looking low value, and it conveys an air of desperation rather than attraction (which is the intended effect!)
The same is true with all flirting strategies – don’t over use them.
When flirting with a guy, you should also keep in mind that there are 7 common signs a woman is low value in the eyes of men. Do You Know What They Are & How to Avoid Them Like the Plague?
CLICK here to discover the 7 common signs that a woman is perceived as low value in the eyes of men in this special report.(Why is this important? Because men and women perceive value very differently and you don’t want to be making mistakes that would cause quality men to dismiss, abandon or alienate you.)
How To Flirt With A Guy Without Talking: Mastering Body Language
The right body language is a crucial component of successful flirting, as it allows you to convey interest and attraction without speaking a word.
If you can use the right body language signals, you’ll be able to flirt with a guy in a way that makes him want to lean into you, chase you and desperate to talk to you.
It’s important to remember that body language is a two-way street. You should be aware of the signals you’re sending out, as well as the signals he’s sending back. Pay attention to his body as well.
This allows you to fine tune yourself and your body language too.
So, here’s the first component to using body language to flirt with men:
Open and confident posture
An open and confident posture is key to showing interest and attracting the guy you’re interested in.
It’s important to know that the first important method for showing open body posture is first, having good posture.
If your shoulders are hunched, you won’t be able to give off that sense of openness.
How else do you convey open and confident body posture?
By facing your body towards him, and having an open physical posture instead of a “closed” one.
An open physical posture is when you face your palms towards him (don’t cross your arms, as this may give off the impression you’re closed off or aggressive).
This doesn’t mean you can never cross your arms, just that you should be aware of not going to that posture due to its hindrances when flirting with a man.
Leaning in and smiling during conversation can also be a great way to show your confidence and make you more attractive to the guy you’re flirting with.
It’s in the Subtle gestures
Subtle gestures, such as gently touching his shoulder, hand or arm while chatting with him, can be a great way to get him to open up to you.
These subtle moves can help create a sense of closeness and intimacy between you, allowing you to flirt without being too forward.
It you want to make it more sexy and enticing, you can gently touch his leg. But be aware that this will be inappropriate in some social contexts, so use it wisely.
If you can incorporate subtle gestures into your flirting repertoire, you’ll be able to slowly escalate the attraction he feels towards you and build the tension and chemistry in your favour.
A Warm Smile Goes a Long Way
A warm smile is a powerful tool if you want to flirt with a guy.
Not only does it show interest and create a bond with a man in an instant, it can also be used as an invitation for him to approach and engage in a conversation with you.
That’s if you don’t get too nervous and look away too quickly. He might assume you’re not really interested if you do that!
Smiling as an invitation
A warm smile can act as an invitation for him to approach and engage in conversation.
A warm smile is a nice feminine way of flirting with him and making him feel like there is ample room for him to approach you.
By smiling warmly, you’ll also be able to create an inviting atmosphere that will make him feel more manly.
More than that – it makes a man feel accepted, which is a powerful way to flirt with him.
Also worth mentioning is that smiling is also a great way to make a good first impression and break the rules.
This simple gesture can make a significant impact on your flirting success, as it’s a chance to showcase your warm personality and feminine openness.
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Perfecting your flirty smile
How can you prefect your warm smile?
Smile at yourself in the mirror, or print out a picture of his face, stick it on your bathroom mirror and practice smiling at him warmly, so that you get comfortable with doing it.
Focus on making your smile look genuine and inviting. Keep your lips slightly parted and your eyes twinkling for maximum effect.
A well-practiced flirty smile can make all the difference in your flirting success, leaving the guy you’re interested in fascinated by you.
Related reading: Conventionally Attractive: What It Means + 6 Signs You Are.
Pay Him Attention and Show Genuine Interest
Showing genuine interest and paying attention to the guy you’re flirting with is essential for creating a strong connection.
By asking open-ended questions and actively listening to his answers, you’ll be able to show your interest and make him feel valued, which is a surefire way to pique his interest and keep him engaged in the conversation.
Ask open-ended questions
What’s the value in asking open ended questions?
Well, these types of questions encourage him to share more about himself and can help create a stronger bond between the two of you.
By asking open-ended questions, you’ll be able to show your genuine interest and make the guy you’re interested in feel special.
Here are some examples of open-ended questions:
- Is jealousy ok in a relationship?
- Is lying ever ok?
- What’s your idea of a good day?
- What’s something kids have today that you wish you had growing up?
Showcase Active listening skills
Active listening is an essential skill when flirting, as it helps establish a connection and makes the other person feel valued.
To showcase your active listening skills:
- Maintain eye contact
- Ask open-ended questions
- Reaffirm and repeat in words back to him what he’s trying to communicate; and
- Show genuine interest in what the guy has to say
By truly listening and showing that you care about what he has to say, you’ll be able to create an emotional connection.
You’ll also stand out as a high value woman.
Contrary to common belief, a lot of people, including women, have trouble listening. So give yourself the best chance of connecting with this guy by developing this skill!
Playful Teasing: Finding the Right Balance
Playful teasing can be a great way to flirt and create a fun, engaging atmosphere. However, it’s important to find the right balance between light-hearted banter and knowing your limits to avoid making the other person feel uncomfortable or overwhelmed.
By mastering the art of playful teasing, you’ll be able to flirt with a guy in a way that leaves him captivated and wanting more.
High Value Banter
High value banter is essential for creating a fun and playful atmosphere when flirting.
By exchanging playful, teasing, and humorous comments during a flirtatious interaction, you’ll be able to show your interest and create a bond with the guy you’re interested in.
Just remember to keep it light and not too crass, so that he gets comfortable with it while feeling comfortable and engaged.
Here’s an example of how you can use high value banter playfully in an interaction with a guy:
You: “Do you know what I like about your outfit?”
Him: “What?”
You: “Nothing at all (insert playful smile here).”
For lots of examples of high value banter plus a FREE class on this dark feminine art, CLICK HERE.
Remember to know your limits
Knowing your limits when teasing and flirting with a particular guy is crucial.
What does this mean?
Well, it means that not every guy is the same.
Some guys are anxious, some are not.
Some guys are really outgoing, confident and curious, while others are scared, suspicious and resentful.
So when flirting, it’s important to remember that everyone has a different personality as well as different boundaries and comfort levels.
By being mindful of this, you’ll be able to know what he’s comfortable with and pick up on any cues that something is making him uncomfortable.
Subtly Drawing Attention to Yourself
Drawing attention to yourself is an essential part of flirting, but it’s important to do so subtly and without coming across as attention-seeking.
By strategically positioning yourself and using casual conversation starters, you’ll be able to draw attention to yourself in a way that leaves the guy you’re interested in drawn to you.
Strategic positioning
Strategic positioning of yourself and your body is key to subtly drawing attention to yourself when flirting.
This means:
- You should position yourself near him, but not so close that you’re in his personal space or invading his engagement with others
- Be open to listening to him speak and being in his presence when there’s an opportunity
- You should be enjoying yourself at the same time
By using such strategic positioning, body language and nonverbal cues to show interest, you can up your flirting game instantly.
You’ll also subtly create chances for interaction with him, and you’ll be able to make it clear that you’re open to engaging with the guy you’re interested in.
Casual conversation starters
Casual conversation starters are a great way to draw attention to yourself and engage the guy you’re interested in without coming across as too forward.
Casual conversation starters have to be contextual.
So you need to use the environment you’re in. Let’s say you’re out at a party of nigh club. Some examples of casual conversation starters would be:
- What’s the best part of your night been?
- Is this one of your favorite places to come to?
- How are you enjoying the party?
Examples of casual conversation starts coupled with a compliment:
- Good choice of drink. I have that often!
- I know your friend too, he’s a good guy, good choice in company!
By starting a conversation with a low key compliment or a question about something, you can begin a conversation when you otherwise wouldn’t have.
It’s important to remember to be yourself and be confident in your approach. Don’t be afraid to ask questions and be playful! Guys love a playful girl.
How To Flirt With A Guy Over Text: Navigating the Digital World
Flirting over text can be just as exciting and effective as flirting in person, but it requires a different set of skills and techniques.
By initiating banter (along with emojis and playful language), you can inspire him to feel attracted to you online.
Starting the conversation
Starting a conversation with a guy over text can be as simple as introducing yourself and asking a question about something you both have in common.
Simply by initiating, you give yourself an opportunity to flirt more.
You can also use humor to break the ice and make him feel more comfortable.
For example:
“Is your day going as poorly as mine? So far today, I’ve already tripped over my toes and forgot to print a document for my boss!”
Humor doesn’t have to be always truthful, but you can make it truthful by drawing from your own situation.
Here are 77 Flirty Texts You Can Send A Guy to Ignite Attraction.
Using emojis and playful language
Using emojis is essential when texting to flirt.
Emojis can help create a light-hearted atmosphere and invite interpretation, while playful language can keep the conversation engaging and fun.
Now let’s get into the final aspect of flirting with a guy, being authentic!
Embrace Your Authentic Femininity
When it comes to flirting, it’s important to embrace your authentic femininity.
Remember, the key to successful flirting lies in being true to yourself, relaxing into your feminine core and being comfortable with letting him be a masculine man.
Related: How to Be More Feminine: 13 Femininity Traits That Make Men Crush On You.
Be genuinely playful in a feminine way
Being genuinely playful when flirting is all about having fun and enjoying him as a man.
Relax into the moment and let your body absorb his masculine energy. As you absorb his masculine energy, you can let your feminine energy shine and create a healthy tension between you both.
Cultivate unshakeable confidence
Cultivating unshakeable confidence is essential for successful flirting.
Why?
Cause when you’re confident in yourself, you’ll be more attractive to the guy you’re interested in and create a more relaxing atmosphere for connection and attraction to flourish.
How to cultivate confidence?
- The first step is to address any anxiety (see whether you have anxious attachment patterns or one of the other insecure attachment patterns. Our free quiz on attachment styles will give you the answer).
- Learn new and important skills
- And then practice putting yourself in uncomfortable situations so that you can have the opportunity to develop that sense of authentic confidence
MORE: The 4 Attachment Styles In Relationships & Which One Are You?
Final Words
Flirting with a guy in a high value way involves mastering the art of eye contact, body language, playful teasing, and genuine interest.
By embracing your authentic feminine self, cultivating unshakeable confidence, and using the proven techniques outlined in this article, you’ll be able to captivate the heart of the guy you’re interested in and leave him wanting more.
So, go ahead and put these tips into practice, and watch your flirting game soar to new heights!
Frequently Asked Questions
In this section, we’ll address some frequently asked questions – including how to flirt with men in different contexts.
By understanding these different aspects of flirting, you’ll be better equipped to navigate the world of flirting and create captivating connections with the guy you’re interested in.
How to flirt with a guy over the phone?
When flirting with a guy over the phone, it’s important to pay attention and ask thoughtful questions that show your genuine interest in getting to know him better.
By engaging him in conversation and maintaining a playful tone, you’ll be able to create a flirty atmosphere that will leave him wanting more.
Remember, the key to successful phone flirting is to be genuinely interested and engaged in the conversation.
How to flirt with a guy physically?
When it comes to flirting with a guy physically, it’s important to:
- Use eye contact
- Body language; and
- Subtle touches to show your interest and attraction
Remember, the key to successful physical flirting is to be subtle and confident in your approach.
How to flirt innocently?
Flirting innocently involves using subtle ways to show interest and create a playful atmosphere without being too forward or overt.
Use:
- Light touches
- Warm smiles, and
- Playful banter
By using these three skills, you can flirt innocently with the guy you’re interested in and create emotional connection as well as attraction.
Remember, the key to innocent flirting is to keep it light and fun, without chasing a guy.
What is the best way to flirt with a guy?
The best way to flirt with a guy is to make eye contact, smile, use body language, touch him playfully, show genuine interest, be witty, and leave some questions hanging.
How do you flirt with a guy over text?
To flirt with a guy over text, start by striking up a conversation with him using lighthearted jokes or humorous messages. Additionally, you can let him know you’re thinking of him by sending a thoughtful message like “I was just daydreaming about you!”
You should also sprinkle compliments in your texts like “I love how witty you are!” and tease him lightly to keep things fun. Always ask open-ended questions to keep the conversation going and end your messages with a flirty closing line.
How do you flirt with a guy but not make it obvious?
Subtly flirt with a guy by making eye contact, smiling, and making small talk.
Give him compliments, but don’t overdo it, and casually laugh at his jokes to show your interest.
Make sure to keep conversation light and fun to prevent being too forward or obvious.
How do you flirt low key?
Flirting low key is all about being subtle and giving the right kind of attention to him.
Compliments should be sincere and given with confidence, and you can also give him a little extra attention with your eyes (prolonged eye contact) to let him know you’re interested.
All of these things help you flirt without making it too obvious.
How do you flirt with a guy but not make it obvious?
Flirting with a guy without making it obvious can be done by smiling, showing genuine interest in what he is saying and using body language to hint that you are interested.
Making eye contact, leaving some questions hanging and being witty are all subtle ways of flirting and letting him know that you like him.
Penny is a writer and part time dating coach. She lives in Brisbane, Queensland with the love of her life, their two daughters and their three dogs. Penny is passionate about helping women realize their high value and harness the innate feminine energy that they were born with.