Author: Varsha Asrani & Renée Shen.
Yes, you heard that right – I did say manifest a boyfriend! I won’t blabber about the tips and tricks to attract a guy, but I will show you how you can manifest one into your life!
Manifesting something from the universe requires you to be focused on what you specifically desire and want to experience, and then embody the positive energy that’s necessary in order to attract this gift into your life.
An important aspect of manifesting something from the universe is to believe with sheer conviction that you can have it.
“Your whole life is a manifestation of the thoughts that go on in your head.” — Lisa Nichols
Suppose you desire a boyfriend who is passionate, loving, and handsome. What would you need to do in order to have him in your arms?
Create a clear mental picture of the various traits you want in your boyfriend, and then feel what it’s like to be with a man like that, and feel the energy of being in his presence, as if he were already here.
I mean, you need to act as an energetic vibration to your relationship. The universe can only bring such people in your life who are the perfect energetic match to your energy.
Many people fail to manifest what they truly desire because they either lack that clear mental image or do not believe that it is truly possible.
Sometimes they embody the opposite energy, which delays or halts the desired manifestation from the universe.
For example: they want a wonderful, committed boyfriend in their life, but instead of living as if he were already in their life, they push him away by acting from fear and from a deep feeling of scarcity or lack in their lives.
Perhaps they secretly feel unworthy of the experience, and therefore they cannot ever really attract that experience into their lives!
The key is to remember that the universe is always responding to how you show up and the energy that you embody.
Let me show you how you can manifest a boyfriend in 7 fast-track steps.
The laws of attraction or the laws of manifestation work in sync with your purpose.
So if you have the wrong kind of ‘why’, then you won’t attract the type of boyfriend that you want.
You need to be very aware of the energy that you’re bringing to the table. Because if you want to know how to manifest a boyfriend due to fear of being judged for being single, or out of envy over others who have boyfriends, then you’ll send out the wrong type of energy that will actually work against your purpose.
So let’s get clear about why you need and want a boyfriend. Yes? Answer these quick questions for me:
Answering such questions would clarify the type of boyfriend you are looking for. The universe will only manifest someone that fits your purpose.
One of the important things that you need to remember while answering such questions is that you need to reinforce positive energy and emotion. If the reason behind your desire is negative, then the resultant manifestation would bring about negative experiences.
“Keep your mind fixed on what you want in life: not on what you don’t want.” — Napoleon Hill
Moreover, when we move to the next step, you will have a clear idea about the various qualities of your ideal boyfriend if you get this step right.
I watched the documentary called “The Secret,” and the late Mr. Bob Proctor said:
“If you see in your mind, you will hold it in your hand.”
However, if you want to know how to manifest a boyfriend, you need to be very specific about what you are looking for. Answering the following questions will help you get clear about what you want to manifest:
Try to list down every minute quality that you need in your boyfriend. Get yourself a piece of paper and start writing the specifics of what you want on a piece of paper.
Seek clarity about his qualities, and hold that mental image in your mind.
The universe will manifest the person with the same qualities you visualized.
Once you have clearly seen in your mind what type of boyfriend you want, you must now start believing that you have already manifested him in your life.
Believe that he is with you and feel the feeling of being with him!
You need to experience how great it feels to be in the relationship with your boyfriend even before he is actually in your life.
Remember, the universe will match the energy that you put out. So if you are showing up in the world as if you’ve already got this specific boyfriend in your life, and you are already reaping the benefits and the joys of being in love with him, you will be much closer to manifesting him.
It’s kind of like that saying that you have to BE love in order to attract love into your life.
In other words, the experience of existing AS love and giving love as well as visualising the abundance of having a lover in your life will make you the exact kind of woman to attract that boyfriend.
“To bring anything into your life, imagine that it’s already there.” — Richard Bach
Visualization is a powerful step in knowing how to manifest a boyfriend. The laws of attraction work on powerful visualization.
Set aside time to visualize having already manifested your boyfriend into your life daily, and in no time, there would be no need to visualize anymore. Nature would have served your boyfriend on a platter! (Metaphorically, lol )
A word of caution:
Visualization is a super-power technique. Because of this, you must ensure that you maintain a proper boundary between being considered sane and being seen as insane.
Don’t get so overly obsessed with your visualisation that you forget to stay present and calibrated in real life, because there’s a risk that you may cross the line and be seen as crazy in front of others.
Visualization is a practice that must be done in private. There is no need to announce it to the world yet – they will see it when you have actually manifested your partner.
One of the prime reasons people fail to succeed in manifesting that ideal person in their lives is that they are filled with negative thoughts and beliefs that leads them to constantly feel negative or unresourceful emotions.
What kind of thoughts am I referring to? Thought such as:
All these are negative thoughts that you need to get rid of. If you find that you do indeed struggle with intimacy and with maintaining strong connection with people, you may want to look into your attachment style.
(Why is this important? It is because your core attachment style largely dictates and influences what happens in your relationship. Thus it’s imperative you understand your core attachment style!)
A lot of the times, if you find that you have had a bad time in relationships, it may be to do with the way you were raised and the lack of responsive nurturing or emotional sensitivity from your parents growing up. This can lead you to have attachment issues.
Here’s the truth:
Unless you are ready to get rid of thoughts and beliefs that do not serve you, you will find it difficult to manifest a boyfriend into your life, because you will be unknowingly sabotaging your own success!
An easy way to know how to fix negative thoughts is to actively choose to believe exactly the opposite of such negative beliefs.
Instead, believe that you are full of love, understanding, emotional generosity and that you are good at relationships.
Most of all, know in your heart and soul that true love does exist. Remember, millions of people are experiencing true love every day.
Yes, millions of people are also experiencing abuse, betrayal and heartache every day. But that doesn’t mean that people aren’t experiencing true love, right? It doesn’t cancel out the fact that real love exists.
In a nutshell: replacing negative thoughts with emotionally resourceful and positive beliefs aids in manifestation.
The universe needs to know if you are ready to receive what you ask for! What better way than to offer that of which you wish to take from a man. It signals to the universe that you are ready to receive.
Embody the traits that you want in a boyfriend within yourself. This will give you the abundance and the high value that is necessary to show up on your future boyfriend’s radar and be noticed by him!
If you want a generous, loving and loyal boyfriend, but you show up as a mopey, negative and spiteful individual, do you think your ideal boyfriend could easily fall in love with you?
Well, of course not.
So, you have already created a mental image of the qualities that you seek in your boyfriend.
If you want a caring boyfriend, you need to start developing such qualities within yourself. If you want a passionate partner, then become more passionate!
“To acquire love… fill yourself up with it until you become a magnet.” — Charles Haanel
You can only manifest what you possess! That’s how the laws of manifestation work.
It does sound a little absurd, but just take a moment and think about it. If you are a resentful or pain-in-the-ass kind of person, how can you attract someone who is caring and loving?
So to manifest a boyfriend, become what you seek!
(Why is this important? Because men and women perceive value very differently and you don’t want to be making mistakes that would cause quality men to dismiss, abandon or alienate you.)
Suppose you don’t actually believe that true love exists or that an amazing man being devoted to you could actually happen. The universe will reciprocate that belief, or your energy level, with a similar response.
Having trust and faith that the laws of the universe can bring you anything you desire is very important.
If you lack this faith, this entire exercise would be moot.
Because with negative beliefs like this, you’re shut off to the whole experience. Therefore you cannot embody the receptivity necessary to bring it into your own life.
Trusting that manifesting a boyfriend is possible and inevitable requires you to show belief in the process through your thoughts, actions and feelings.
“Have faith in the magic and miracles of life, for only those that do get to experience them.” — Hal Elrod
Many ladies would begin with extreme faith and great happiness when learning how to manifest a boyfriend. However, the real test comes when you have to wait quite a while to manifest your ideal boyfriend.
Sometimes it takes a little more time than you thought when you begin manifesting a boyfriend! And the extended time period can throw many women off course.
Don’t let this be you. Here’s how to avoid veering off course due to a lack of faith:
Keep looking around you for evidence that others are experiencing the love that you want, because the evidence is everywhere!
The universe has already brought love and romance to many, many women before you. So there’s absolutely no reason why it could not - or would not - do the same for you.
When you keep fuelling your faith in the universe, good things will happen. Don’t let a lack of faith get in the way and catch yourself when you notice yourself denying the power of the universe and the law of attraction.
For a lot of women, what can happen is that when the universe is almost about to deliver the boyfriend they desire, you create new obstacles by losing faith.
Just because you can’t see your ideal boyfriend in front of you yet, doesn’t mean that the universe isn’t already bringing him to you.
You have already done what is needed to manifest a boyfriend, and now it is just a matter of time. All you need to do now is to maintain your faith in the process of manifestation.
If you have read up to here, it shows how much you genuinely need a boyfriend.
And now I want to reassure you that if you follow all the above steps with dedication and belief, then soon you will no longer be single!
You have done your part, you have shown the universe that you’re ready to receive, so now let the universe play its role and manifest a boyfriend in your life.
“Fully inhale your dream and completely exhale manifestation of it.” — T.F. Hodge
Some of you might have already read about the laws of the universe and the laws of attraction.
If you have already heard about it, I hope you would have gained better clarity about the process of manifesting by reading this guide.
However, if it’s the first time you have heard about these laws, I insist that you begin with sheer belief.
I focused this guide specifically on how to manifest a boyfriend. However, you can also use these steps to attract any kind of person into your life.
The universe is only concerned with manifesting things for you that you are able to receive. Do yourself a favour and take all of the above 7 steps, so that you’ll never have to ask the question of how to manifest a boyfriend again.
Varsha is a writer and mother of a beautiful son. She has a dual Master’s degree in Business Management (Finance & Marketing) and Career Counselling certification. Her passion for learning led her to the teaching domain, where she shares the knowledge she gained over the years through education and personal life. She teaches students of ATMC College Melbourne (as a Management Faculty).
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