Will He Come Back? 10 Signs He Will + 2 Mistakes

When it comes to painful breakups, there is no answer more sought after than the eternal question, “Will he come back?”

The truth is that an answer to this timeless query can only be found through a deep exploration of the various factors that influence a man’s decision-making process in romance.

By taking a closer look at evolutionary psychology and understanding the key elements driving man's behavior, we can gain insights into whether he will come back or not.

From this perspective, here are 10 signs that could indicate that he will come back, along with two mistakes to avoid when trying to bring him back.

1: He can’t seem to stay away from you.

In the world of evolutionary psychology, this could be indicative of a deep-seated need to keep the bond with his romantic partner intact.

Even during times of separation, if he is regularly looking for ways to stay in touch and keep up the relationship, this could be a sign he is not ready to give up on it.

In these cases, it’s a good idea to make sure you still maintain your boundaries and don’t get too emotionally invested.


Because you shouldn't invest in him until you're sure that his intent to commit is real, and his commitment is emotional rather than convenience-based.

In other words, you don't want him to commit to you out of convenience, but rather, out of a genuine emotional attraction to you.

If he really feels emotional attraction for you, this likely means that he has fallen in love with you.

And once a man is in love, that is almost always the end of his single days.

But how can you make sure that his intent to commit is real? You can find out with our quick, free and easy quiz: QUIZ TIME: Is your man serious about committing to you? CLICK HERE to find out with this specially crafted quiz!

2: He shows that he feels regret and guilt.

Studies have shown that those who feel regret and guilt in their breakups are more likely to attempt to reconcile than those who don't.

This is because regret and guilt are evolutionarily beneficial emotions that stem from a man's urge to fix things that have gone wrong in order to protect his resources and maintain his reputation.

MORE: 12 Sure Signs Your Ex Boyfriend Regrets Dumping You.

By expressing regret and guilt, a man is indicating to you that:

  • He is connected to how you feel
  • He feels a responsibility for you
  • He recognizes the need to repair the relationship; and
  • Is more likely to pursue a reconciliation

Furthermore, expressing regret and guilt may indicate that he views the relationship as important enough to him to warrant the effort to fix it.

By the way, if he truly regrets the breakup, there’s a typical timeline and specific stages that he will go through. CLICK here to discover the 5 Stages of Male Dumper’s Regret & FAQ.

3: He praises you

…And talks about your positive qualities.

Will he come back?

While this sign is no guarantee that he will come back, it could be a green light for you to feel hopeful.

A man who praises you a lot could be trying to communicate his yearning to be with you.

If he often talks about your positive qualities, such as your kindness, intelligence or nurturing qualities, is likely to come back.

But why might it indicate that he could come back?

This is because discussing your good qualities shows that he has spent time appreciating you as a person and what you have to offer.

He could be regretting letting go of that.

Sure, it could also just mean that he likes you as a friend, but if he's taking note of your positive qualities often, then there's a good chance he is interested in pursuing a relationship with you.

Furthermore, if he brings up memories of good times you’ve had together or compliments you on your style, it could be a sign that he wants to come back and make you his very own again.

In the end, the more positive things he says about you, the stronger the likelihood that he will return.

MORE: 7 Crucial Stages Of Getting Back Together With An Ex.

4: He is jealous.

Jealousy is a primal emotion that comes from a man's need to protect what he has worked hard to acquire.

If a man is willing to put in the effort to make sure you are not seeing someone else, it could be a sign that he wants to come back.

It's important to note, however, that this could also just be his way of controlling you and limiting your options.

So it's important to ensure that any jealous behavior is coming from a place of love and not the desire to control your actions.

You'll feel his love behind the jealousy if you really stop and feel his intent.

If he's just being competitive with other men or has anger issues, that means he is not truly invested in you for you, and he's not truly jealous over you.

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5: He notices subtle changes in your behavior.

If you're still wondering to yourself: "will he come back?" - pay attention to how much he pays attention to you.

If he still cares and there's a part of him that still wants to invest in you, he'll pay attention to your body language and non-verbal cues in order to determine whether you are still interested or not.

As such, if your man starts picking up on changes in your behavior that you may not even be aware of in yourself, it could be a sign that he is still invested in you and wants to come back.

Notice if he says things like

"Oh, you don't smile when you see me anymore."


"You seem to be ignoring me lately."

6: He offers his advice and help (whether you want it or not).

There's nothing more annoying than unsolicited advice.

But men who want you back will give it to you no matter what.

It's their way of trying to "claim" you.

Even if he's not making bold moves to get you back right now, if he's giving unsolicited advice then he's either testing the waters, or subtly trying to make you belong to him again.

Additionally, behavior like this could be an indication of his commitment to you.

Recommended: 11 Unusual Ways to Pull Away to Make Him Want You.

7: He is super protective of you.

Men can also be protective of female friends of course, but if you notice that he makes a real effort to protect you, he might be trying to preserve your relationship - or he sees you as so valuable that he needs to preserve your safety and happiness.

Protective behavior is also a natural instinct that is common in men who are emotionally attached.

So how can you tell if he is protective of you?

He may do things like:

  • Walking you to your car
  • Carrying your things
  • Walking behind you when you are walking somewhere together
  • Calling to check up on you

These behaviors can definitely be an indication that he wants to take care of you and come back into your life.

Men can protect people or children to be noble and just to do the right thing. But they aren't protective of every woman they meet, that's for sure!

8: He looks for chances to show his commitment to the relationship.

If a man is willing to make changes and sacrifices for the relationship to work, this could be a sign that he is committed to you and willing to come back.

What types of changes or sacrifices might he make?

  • He might call you at a time you always wished he'd call but he never did
  • He might try activities you asked him to try when you were together but didn't
  • He might even buy you something or offer to take you somewhere he knows you want to go
  • He makes himself available to you round the clock

The key is to look for evidence of genuine effort rather than things he can do out of convenience.

For example, picking up a pen that you dropped while walking is a more convenient action and wouldn't indicate that he's ready to emotionally commit.

9: He seeks out moments of vulnerability and connection.

This is something a man will do when he values you and the relationship.

Will he come back? A man who wants to come back will often look for chances to connect with you on a deeper level.

He will be more willing to open up and to open you up emotionally.

This could mean he actively seeks out moments to talk with you or he shows interest in the things that make you feel vulnerable.

By doing this, he is showing that he is interested in you and is willing to go the extra mile to get to know you on a deeper level.

10: He's very attuned to you.

In other words, he knows how you're feeling and proceeds according to that.

If he cares enough about you to attune to your feelings and what you need, then you really have a man who will come back!

As an example, a man who is still interested in coming back to you will be able to gauge when to give you space and when to give you attention.

He will be able to recognize the moments when you need him and the moments when you need the freedom to be on your own.

This ability is a sign of emotional maturity and intention to connect with how you're feeling, both of which can indicate his willingness to come back into your life.

Of course, you could also just have a very attuned guy who has high emotional intelligence.

But if he's really making the effort to respond to your feelings, then he's showing just how much he cares.

Not just about you, but about how his actions may affect you and the relationship.

Case study: Learn how Kristin went from being completely burnt out with online dating, sick of getting ghosted and completely exhausted from giving her heart and soul with nothing in return… To having high value men begging for her attention & having the most “electric” date of her entire life. (…All by changing one simple strategy.)

TWO Mistakes You Should AVOID

1: Trying to force him to come back

One mistake to avoid is coming on too strong or trying to force a reconciliation.

If he still has feelings for you and is willing to come back, it won't be because you've pressured him into it.

Instead, it will be because he's chosen to do so in his own time.

2: Making too many assumptions

The second mistake to avoid is getting too caught up in the signs and in making assumptions about him and his intentions.

If you start to think that he'll come back because he's exhibiting a couple of these behaviors, that's not a guarantee.

You still need to be attuned to him.

See, even if he's showing some of the signs above, there's a chance he might just be trying to get your attention.

And if that's the case, you need to be careful that you don't jump the gun and get over-eager, because you'll just set yourself up for disappointment.

What should you do now?

The best thing you can do to bring him back is to build your value as a woman.

This is much better than obsessing about “will he come back?”

You want to actively be building your value so that you can present yourself as a high value woman to him.

When you’re a high value woman, this will increase his desire to claim you…and naturally, too.

It won’t be contrived or forced.

Better still, it won’t be needy.

It’ll just be him seeing your value and simply having to make you his again.

Because being a high value woman increases the chances of all men wanting to commit to a relationship with you.

…Rather than leaving you or seeing you as just a hookup.

So here’s what you can do:

Step #1: Avoid low value behaviors

Avoiding low value behaviors means you actively avoid trying to extract value from him all the time.

Remember that it’s not just about what you want from him or about how much you want the relationship back.

It’s also about understanding where he is at and what he perceives value in at this point.

Also: avoid the typical signs of low value in women.

There Are 7 Common Signs That A Woman is Perceived as Low Value to All Men. Do You Know What They Are & How to Avoid Them Like the Plague?

CLICK here to discover the 7 common signs that a woman is perceived as low value in the eyes of men in this special report.

(Why is this important? Because men and women perceive value very differently and you don’t want to be making mistakes that would cause quality men to dismiss, abandon or alienate you.)

Step #2: Learn how to show up as a high value woman

There are specific things you need to focus on if you want to show up as a high value woman.

Specifically, you need to present with real relationship value.

In other words, you need to focus on the emotional connection and emotional attraction in the relationship, and not on what you can get from him.

Here is how to emotionally connect with men.

Here is how to emotionally attract a man.

Also, there are specific traits of high value women. You can learn about 10 traits of a high value, superior woman here.

Renee Shen

Penny Hoffman

Penny is a writer and part time dating coach. She lives in Brisbane, Queensland with the love of her life, their two daughters and their three dogs. Penny is passionate about helping women realize their high value and harness the innate feminine energy that they were born with.

Renée Shen

Author & Editor For National Council for Research on Women. Founder of the popular women's dating & relationship advice website, The Feminine Woman.

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