Author: Paul R. Brian & Renée Shen
Once in your lifetime you may meet someone who you connect with more intensely and deeply than anyone you ever have. The connection will almost instantly change your life.
This is your twin flame.
But how do you know if you’ve really found your twin flame or you’re just having a sudden infatuation or strong attraction?
Here’s how to tell.
First of all it’s important to be clear about what a twin flame is. So: what is a twin flame?
Well, twin flames are those "mirrored souls" who are always looking for each other.
According to one theory of spirituality, we and our twin flame were one soul before birth and were then separated into two halves.
According to New Age spiritual beliefs, we struggle to meet this other half and often only do so when we have overcome many challenges on our own through many lives.
So when you find your better half on the physical plane, this may be your last reincarnation.
According to this theory, it's very rare to find the twin flame, since it's linked to a progression through many lives.
Even if you don’t buy into this New Age idea, a twin flame is still a very precious and rare person who you only meet once in your life. They are truly your “other half.”
Here are the top 12 signs that can help you know whether you’ve met your twin flame.
This attraction is constant, intense and total. You feel physically and emotionally on fire for this person.
Even if there's distance between the two of you, it feels like there is almost a magnetic force pulling you together.
If you’re asking: what is a twin flame?
It all starts with a strong magnetic attraction to them.
And when it comes to signs and symptoms of a twin flame, none is more important than the instinctive and incredible feelings you have for them.
One of the most obvious signs of a relationship with the twin flame is when you have the same dreams.
Sharing dreams happens when you are energetically connected in the spiritual realm on the astral plane.
This is one of the most important signs and symptoms of a twin flame connection.
You may not realize it at first, but when you both become aware that you’re having identical dreams at the same time, you will be very surprised!
That’s why, when people ask me: what is a twin flame? I always ask them whether they’re sharing dreams with their lover or not, because sharing dreams is a very good start…
Never underestimate the power of nonverbal communication!
If you’re trying to figure out an answer to the question “what is a twin flame?” look no further than an ability to speak to each other with your eyes and body language.
Communication is fluid between you and often it is not even necessary to speak.
You can say things to each other without a word and without anyone noticing. It may be a simple gesture like a scratch on the head or a slight nod of the head, but that means a lot between the two of you.
This is a very crucial one of the twin flames signs and symptoms, because the twin flame connection goes far beyond the surface.
You don’t just communicate verbally or even with obvious body language...due to the sacred connection you share, you guys can actually become in sync in your thoughts and feelings.
Everyone has a public version of themselves that they show the world - and a real, more authentic inner self.
It’s not that the outer self is “fake,” so much as it is functional. If you’re a hotel receptionist you don’t tell someone you’re going through a depression crisis: you smile and serve them.
Twin flames are all about authenticity and there’s no deception or roleplaying (unless it’s for fun and spiciness of course).
The twin flame is able to see his true self in you and you can see your true self in them.
This is a very important one of the twin flames signs and symptoms. Many people in this modern world don’t want their real self to be seen, but with a twin flame, you are so deeply connected on multiple planes that you cannot even control it.
But, it doesn't bother you and actually it seems natural and comfortable to display your true self to this man.
When you’re with your twin flame, you are able to share the things you never would share with anyone else, and you can be totally yourself.
You're not afraid he's going to judge you or despise you for what you reveal.
This brings a sense of security, which you usually didn't find in other relationships.
At the same time, the closeness can become almost overwhelming in some situations, especially because you feel like this guy (or girl) can see right through to your soul.
What is a twin flame? It’s kind of like a mirror you can’t look away from.
Not only do you have nothing to hide, you don’t feel like you can hide anything, which can be an exhilarating and at times scary sensation.
At the beginning of the relationship with a twin flame, you are likely to notice that you feel like you've known them forever.
It's common to have the feeling of deja vu when you're with your twin flame.
You feel like you’re meeting someone from your childhood or who you’ve known forever, because, well, they’re literally the other half of your soul.
You fit together like a jigsaw puzzle.
This usually brings a feeling of safety and comfort, as if you are finally returning home after a long journey.
(Why is this important? It is because your core attachment style largely dictates and influences what happens in your relationship. Thus it’s imperative you understand your core attachment style!)
Your twin flame will make you want to become the best version of yourself and grow as a person.
It's not because they make you feel like there's something wrong with how you are now. It’s more about realizing that you want to evolve and become your best version of yourself so that you can add even more value.
They bring out that drive in you, and you bring that out in them. It’s a mutually reciprocal process of challenging and improving each other.
This usually happens because the twin flame connection you share is so fulfilling and exhilarating that it provides you both with excess energy and emotional inspiration to go the extra mile.
That doesn’t happen in the average relationship. In the average relationship, it’s common to really limit the energy you put into the relationship.
Following on from the previous sign, you should know that a twin flame relationship is not always unicorns and butterflies.
This is in fact stage 7 of the 8 classic twin flame stages: you are challenged deeply by your twin.
Since you’re seeing the other part of your soul in your twin flame - someone who may share the same traumas and remarkably similar life pains, they may trigger deep, unresolved emotions in you.
Luckily, the strength and beauty of a twin flame relationship should make you want to work through these emotions, because you don’t mind your twin flame seeing you for who you are, even when you’re an emotional mess.
If you find that this person naturally forces you to open up your walls and reveal the darker, shadow parts of you, then you could be seeing one of the strong twin flame signs and symptoms.
When one of you feels down, so does the other.
The same goes for happiness, anxiety, confusion, and so on.
If you’re asking “what is a twin flame?” Think about a candle with two wicks. They both burn brightly and feed into each other.
When one burns low or sputters, the other is also affected.
The energy released by one of you is absorbed by the other. This can cause a lot of drama, but it can also lead to very euphoric and miraculous experiences together.
There's something about the relationship with the twin flame that seems important in a bigger way.
Perhaps your connection is so real, special and rare that you inspire others who witness your connection to believe there is something more in this world.
You may feel a sense that there is a greater purpose to all this and are also likely to feel inspired by it yourself.
Your connection feels immortal, meaningful and profound.
You are aware that you have embarked on a journey together and can't wait to see where it will take you.
When we talk about physical attraction in a relationship with a twin flame, we’re talking about incredible chemistry.
In fact, the physical chemistry can be almost intoxicating and overwhelming.
You are always in tune with each other and it feels like your bodies are inexplicably intertwined.
If you're holding hands on the street, kissing in the morning or just relaxing at home, you never feel suffocated or neglected.
Instead, you feel a perfect balance in the middle.
Although you are emotionally and physically compatible, it is in the soul that you sense the most powerful connection between you.
Your flame makes you feel good and you feel the futility of modern life recede when you’re around them, replacing it with faith in humanity and in the future.
You are spiritually connected in some way which is almost mystical and hard to explain.
Although you may not be able to label it, you love it.
Even if you've resisted commitment in previous relationships, you're not afraid of it now.
The doubts they had with other partners simply do not occur with their twin flame.
You trust them and you know them more deeply, so it's easier to be vulnerable and available for something serious.
One of the difficulties of many modern relationships and dating is that one person often finds themselves doing more chasing while their love interest is more elusive.
With all the confusion surrounding relationships and dating, plus the added challenge that online dating and technology can bring to our communication, it's common for at least one of the partners to hold back or be afraid to look too needy.
This doesn't mean that your twin flame will never be afraid, and it also doesn't mean that your twin flame will never run away from the connection.
It just means that even if they do feel afraid, they are always, and I mean always, pulled back to you. They'll chase you!
Yes there's a contradiction here, but that's ok, because your twin will return to you.
In average relationships (that aren't twin flame relationships), you often find that partners don't exhibit enough loyalty and will typically bail whenever things get hard.
This difficulty doesn’t exist when you have met your twin flame.
Instead you find yourselves so deeply desiring each other spiritually, emotionally and physically, that your fears are inevitably overcome by your love for one another, and you’re chasing each other equally, making for a beautifully reciprocal relationship, even if there are rocky times.
Are you unsure whether your twin loves you or not? Check these 12 Guaranteed Signs Your Twin Flame Loves You.
You do not always know if you’ve met your twin flame. You will almost always feel an inexplicable and intense connection, but it may take months or even years for you to have a eureka moment and realize this person is basically your other half in a spiritual sense.
A soulmate is someone you are destined to be with romantically. They are your ideal love partner.
A twin flame is literally the other half of your soul who is in a way another version of you.
A twin flame will not always be your partner in this life, whereas a soulmate almost always will be your partner or romantically significant other.
Unfortunately, no. Despite all the twin flames signs and symptoms, there is still plenty that can go wrong once you meet your twin flame.
Sometimes meeting your twin flame can be like looking in a mirror and instead of a positive and affirming experience it lights up a lot of conflict and buried hurt.
No, they don’t. Twin flames are based on the idea that one soul is split in two. As such, one part of your soul could be on the other side of the world, and you would never cross paths.
Since twin flames can inspire you to grow as well as bring out your deepest emotions and therefore insecurities, you could consider this to be a good thing or a bad thing - it depends on you.
Paul R. Brian
Paul Rowan Brian is a freelance journalist, author and writer from Canada. He's written for Ideapod, Hack Spirit and Love Connection and is focused on culture, relationships and self-development. You can follow him on Twitter @paulrbrian.
Editor & Author For National Council for Research on Women. Founder & Author of the Popular Women's Relationship & Dating Advice Website, The Feminine Woman.
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