Author: Paul R. Brian & Renée Shen
Your work environment can be a great place to meet new friends and maybe even the man or woman of your dreams.
If the latter is what you want, you need to understand the difference between a guy being friendly, and him actually being flirtatious and pursuing you..
This can be hard to discern, particularly given the many company policies on workplace professionalism when it comes to mixing business with pleasure.
Let’s figure this out for you and take a look at 17 signs a guy likes you at work.
Your job may require a fair bit of interaction and working together one-on-one.
Regardless, it quickly becomes obvious who wants to talk to you a lot - or not.
And one of the most sneaky signs a guy likes you at work is when he consistently seeks you out and likes talking to you more than anyone else.
Pay attention to his signals, including how he talks to you, and his physical gestures.
If you only talk about work-related matters, he may be genuinely interested in you as a working partner.
If your conversations usually branch out to non-work topics and he’s always seeking a quiet chat with you, then that's a pretty solid sign that he likes you.
When you catch him smiling at you in meetings and you smile back, it's a good indicator that he like you and wants to spend more time with you.
Even better, if you're giving a presentation and he makes sure to show you that he’s listening and encouraging you, that’s a big smiley face with heart eyes right there.
Let’s face it:
Work isn’t always a place of joy.
So if just looking at you puts a smile on his face, it definitely means something.
If you show up at work and, without asking, he brings you coffee just the way you like it, it's another clear indicator that he likes you.
If he does this regularly and happens to grab a breakfast sandwich or maybe a croissant as well, then you can be sure you're already in his heart!
Maybe he just really likes you as a friend?
If he does it for the secretary who's always there and treats him like a son, it doesn't count.
I mean, it’s possible he’s just a good guy who goes the extra mile…
But all of these sound a lot more like the behavior of a man in love, or at least a man who’s “strongly in like.”
Use your sound judgment to find out if he's trying to make you feel special or if he's just a kind and considerate man.
If he's genuinely interested in your life outside the office and wants to hear what you have to say about general life matters, then he's certainly interested in you.
His messages or calls may be flirtatious or just friendly, but they all serve the purpose of staying connected and in touch outside of work.
At the very least, you’d have to agree that these actions form a pretty solid basis for potentially dating in the future.
A guy who chooses to care and listen to what you have to say is a guy you need to keep around.
This is normally not against office rules, because you can go out and chat about work stuff over lunch.
If you’re on the same file at work and purely colleagues then maybe that’s all it is.
But if romantic sparks have been flying and he asks you out for a “quick bite,” chances are it’s a way of low key asking you out.
Sometimes it's hard to relax and be yourself when you're in work mode at the office.
When you have bosses looking over your shoulder, it's hard to show your true self to any man.
That's why he invited you to lunch, so he can investigate you a little more in a comfortable setting.
Is there any better way to a girl's heart than through a good lunch and great conversation?
He might act like he’s doing this by accident, but trust me, he's doing it on purpose!
Add this to any other sign on our list and you know he likes you.
This is the perfect and innocent way for him to approach you without making you step out of your comfort zone at work.
If he always seems to sit next to you at meetings and flash you that million dollar smile, he probably likes you quite a lot.
If you notice that he seems to accidentally or coincidentally bump into you or brush by you very closely at various points of the day, you have a romantically and sexually interested man on your hands.
It's safe to say he's probably not just being clumsy.
Truth be told, when you are attracted to someone, your body is also attracted to them, and sometimes it has a mind of its own.
If he bumps into you regularly or lets his touch linger when you shake hands, you can be pretty sure he's into you.
He can be a busy man, but if he's always willing to put things aside to help you with your stuff, you can be sure he likes you.
Maybe he'll offer to help you with the heavy stuff or ask if there's anything you need him to do to help out a bit extra.
If he respects you when you say you don't need help, and he still comes back to offer his services, he's not one to throw away.
Just be careful in case he's only looking for a quick way to get into your bed for a quick pump and dump.
Always remember that you deserve a healthy, happy, long-term relationship with the man you choose, so it's important that you find out if your coworker likes you for the right reasons.
If this guy goes into protection mode when it comes to you and your feelings, there's definitely something else going on.
Maybe a coworker has bad-mouthed you because of a task you did and you’re struggling over how to respond.
Then he shows up defending your reputation and intentions.
What girl doesn't want a strong man to defend her?
If he stands up for you at work, he’s a keeper.
Another one of the sneaky signs a guy likes you at work is that he gives you sweet or funny nicknames.
If your coworker crush is teasing you with endearing nicknames, it's a clear sign that he likes you.
Extra points here if he's blushing and smiling at you when calling you these nicknames he’s made up.
When we give someone nick names, it means we feel a real fondness towards them, and no matter how hard you try to act like it’s just normal friendship, a guy calling you “babe” or “honey” doesn’t indicate platonic friendship.
This also shows that there's certainly a chemistry between the two of you.
You can take your relationship to the next level if you want, because the ball is in your court.
Remembering special dates is something that courteous coworkers often do.
However, if it’s not usual for this guy to do so, but he is doing it for you, then it shows he’s thinking of you that extra bit.
He’ll always know when it’s a special day for you and make sure to make you feel like he appreciates you.
This is actually one of the sneaky signs a guy likes you at work, because it gives him an excuse to treat you in a special way without going all-in until he has more confidence.
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There will always be that one person who wants to pull the rug out from under you at work and try to take away your accomplishments.
But this guy is the opposite - he appreciates and acknowledges all your cleverness and accomplishments.
What’s more, he’ll defend you when others come after you or try to frame you up for doing a bad job.
This includes situations where you really are to blame.
He’ll always see the best in you, because that’s how guys are they are in love with a woman!
If this guy supports you in everything you do or have done, no matter how much you screw up, then you really do have a man who is worthy of you.
He may not ask you directly, but you can quickly find out if he wants to be more involved in your life by whether he’s showing interest in your relationship status.
When he asks what you did over the weekend and who you were with, it's a strong indicator that he likes you.
If he didn't want to spend more time getting to know you, he just wouldn't ask.
The thing is, when a man is trying to find out your relationship status, he's definitely into you, no question!
(Why is this important? It is because your core attachment style largely dictates and influences what happens in your relationship. Thus it’s imperative you understand your core attachment style!)
When a man is always finding things for you two to talk about, there’s a very high probability he likes you.
He doesn't really care if the subject is even relevant or interesting to him, because his focus is on capturing your undivided attention and seeing you happy!
He finds you interesting, and what you talk about is of secondary importance to him.
Another one of the sneaky signs a guy likes you at work is that his work and break schedules seem to subtly shift and match yours over time.
This one is a little weird, but it should also flatter you.
(At least if you’re into him, too).
When suddenly his shifts are the same, it's more than just a coincidence. It’s him trying to spend as much time with you as possible.
There couldn't be a clearer sign that he likes you.
If a guy also strives to line up his lunch break or lunch habits with yours, that’s another one of the big telltale signs a guy likes you at work.
There’s just a bit too many coincidences here, don’t you think?
Now, no guide about sneaky signs a guy likes you at work would be complete without mentioning body language.
Here’s the thing:
You have no control over your unconscious body language. Even if you’re trying to hide and control your own body language, subtle messages and information still come across in various ways.
So there are numerous body cues that he will unknowingly reveal that tell you that he is interested in you and only you.
Common signs include:
Also, making strong eye contact or overly avoiding eye contact can also both be signs that he’s got the hots for you.
If he’s making excuses to see you out of the workplace, he’s definitely interested.
He’s probably not going to call it a date or be overly weird about it.
But unless there’s a clear work reason or you two have become very good friends, it’s definitely the action of a guy who’s into you.
If your colleague at work is showing many of the signs above, then he probably has feelings for you.
Should you take it to the next level or leave it to some fun texting and winks at the water cooler?
First, a note of caution:
Be careful and smart if you're thinking about having a romantic relationship with someone at work.
Be aware that your employer might view a relationship with a coworker as disrespectful or even a firing offense in some cases if it goes against regulations.
Think about what might happen if you break up or, even worse, start to hate each other.
If you've thought long and hard about all the ups and downs, and you still want to go for it, do it!
I recommend you be smart if you want to take initiative, and use the dark feminine art of high value banter to test how much he really does like you, without coming across too forward.
Sometimes all your coworker needs is a little playful banter in order to feel encouraged enough to officially ask you out.
Workplace romance can be a special thing and lead to real love in some cases. I’ve definitely seen it happen a few times in my life.
And that could be you!
Paul R. Brian
Paul Rowan Brian is a freelance journalist, author and writer from Canada. He's written for Ideapod, Hack Spirit and Love Connection and is focused on culture, relationships and self-development. You can follow him on Twitter @paulrbrian.
Author & Editor For National Council for Research on Women. Founder of the popular women's dating & relationship advice website, The Feminine Woman.
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